Hi Rick
I'm much more comfortable letting the mortar bed cure first. I tried it a couple times and it seemed to take me more time. But that's just because I wasn't used to it.
Mix the sand-mix as you would for regular mortar beds (deck-mud) as you described as sand castle texture. I back butter the tiles first and then beat them into the bed. But I have only tried it a couple of times and would much rather work on a cured mortar bed.
If the bed is packed too hard, it's difficult to beat the tiles into the bed (even a little), so try leaving enough play in the bed to allow you to set the tiles level.
Maybe someone can be more helpful than I am with this process.
