With only 1.25" of height to work with, two layers of subfloor over the T&G may not be possible unless it's a direct bond, i.e. no tile backer.
I would use a single layer of 3/4" or 5/8" ply screwed to the T&G, Ditra, then tile. That should get you pretty close to 1.25".
Edited by Kman (06/18/11 11:50 PM)
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